I once did it like this:
Do a quick face out at the start of the snare - yeah i know it eats out everthing else too but bare with me here - and almost immediately fade in. Just a few milliseconds of silence, maybe 10 at max depending on the snare. Then do a longer fade in to the decaying snare, ending the fade, eg. return to full volume just when the snare hit goes out.
fuck it i drew a picture but cant upload at all now, somethin with my firewall cant be arsed right now but anyway
Then replace that empty spot with another sound that suits your tune, like a brass hit or a bass stab or whatever. Not perfect but it's something at least.
Or to make a long story short, sidechain it to some other sound.