I just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years tonite

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  1. Indi

    Indi Tha Original ThreadKilla!

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    Feeling really shitty and can't sleep. We had some stuff that we couldn't work out, and its been built up over a period of time so its too far gone to try to salvage something. We both came to an agreement that its over. Life sucks.
     
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  2. Radius

    Radius Give me back my passport u slags

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    mate sorry to hear that ...well I'm free if you need somone else :banana: :cowbell:
     
  3. sdm

    sdm This is Dog Fort

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    Unlucky mate (n) :-/
     
  4. Radius

    Radius Give me back my passport u slags

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    Serious;y though hang in there. YOu know teh next few weeks u gonna feel irrational, but it will pass...in time....
     
  5. moriaty

    moriaty Active Member

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    shit man, just try and keep you head up.
    its a bit like going cold turkey, you need to do stuff that you like and dont remind you of the drug, and reward your self for going clean every day!

    (yn) :bounce:
     
  6. Dustek

    Dustek Finished the PhD

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    Bad bad bad mate. I was fucked for a year after breaking up after 5 years. I'm sure you'll cope with it better!

    D Breakneck went through the same shit recently, I think he's fine now...

    Remember, there are plenty of fine women out there looking for English teaching, web company starting, gig organizing, Goldie knowing, karate chopping headz!
     
  7. Dustek

    Dustek Finished the PhD

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    Radius Give me back my passport u slags

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    Hey don't forget about ME INDI...:orly:
     
  9. D BREAKNECK

    D BREAKNECK 7 years on top

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    I wouldn't go that far...
    (Although I have suddenly realised how many rather attractive young ladies go to Breakneck events;) )

    But I'm certainly a lot better than I was...

    The week was my breakup (getting shock dumped actually) was honestly the worst week of my life so far. I felt like my life had been turned upside down, then shaken around again & again for the next few months...

    :cry:

    1 thing I've learned is how important it is to be comfortable on my own, not only as part of a couple (lovely, etc. as that is).

    (Being alone, not lonely).

    Chin up fella!(y)
     
  10. deadaelus

    deadaelus Laughter in the Slaughter

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    thats a tough break, but at least it was mutual and for the better. If things went sideways (as they often do in my life) you could have got her pregnant then broke up. Having to pay child support for the rest of your existance...

    Even when things are shitty, they can always get worse.
     
  11. mesh

    mesh Active Member

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    sorry to hear that mate, there is nothing worse.you can survive this for a bit, you will make it.
     
  12. D BREAKNECK

    D BREAKNECK 7 years on top

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    The other best bit of advice I got was 'That it's ok to feel all those things, and to give yourself time to feel them, all the loss, confusion, pain, anger, whatever'.

    6yrs is a long time, and you can't just switch of all those feelings, so y'know don't think 'I must stop feeling so down' cos sometimes you have to go thru that. You can't rush it.

    :thumbsup:
     
  13. Gumby

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    thats rough. just give it time.

    xo
     
  14. bloodfire

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    breaking up from a long relationship really sucks arse mate i was with my last girlfriend for 8 years so that was pretty tough but hang in there mate go out with ya mates have some fun and check what other hotties you could be getting hold of
     
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    Charlie Van Pelt Charles N. Charge

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  16. Triple M

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    Ouch man!

    Sorry to hear that....Can't be easy!?
     
  17. Time Dependant

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    Sorry to hear that fella, you still out in Japan?
     
  18. mesh

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    Nanjing, China even!
     
  19. logikz

    logikz I Am Not The King Staff Member

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    fucking hell man, you liked her alot too i seem to recall.
    will you be staying in china? stay up kid, keep drinking for a few weeks though, takes the edge off. i know they sell these small red pills, nerve relaxants in the pharmacies round china, should get a few of those packs too. theyre not very good but its worth a try.
     
  20. Indi

    Indi Tha Original ThreadKilla!

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    Thanks for all the concern.

    Erm, I'm definitely staying in China because I have far too much stuff going on to just up and leave, and I would be foolish of me to allow this break to ruin what I've achieved in the past 3 years or so.

    As for emotionally, I'm the kind of guy that just bites my lip and bears it. Been through a lot of shit before, like this is any different. Just getting on with it really, going out and keeping myself busy.