Getting pregnant by a man who hasn't officially committed to you goes way beyond "giving him a chance". Why can't you as a woman be a responsible adult who's accountable for your own actions? Why do you keep trying to deflect women's personal responsibilities back on to men? Nobody is asking women to uphold the community alone nor are we saying that women should be held to a higher standard. Those are weak straw man arguments. What we're saying that is that women are ultimately responsible for their actions so they need to own up to that responsibility and stop deflecting back on men.